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Paris Trial Run

February 6, 2013 Leave a comment

So this will be my first “official” post as I got off to a rough start. I caught the Lebron James of flu viruses and was out of commission for two weeks. Plus I had to deal with the issue of finding a new apartment in Manhattan, coughing up the absurd amount of money to get the place, and of course moving. Living in a cramped Manhattan apartment helps you grasp the importance of reducing clutter in your life, and the value of E-Books. What the hell am I going to do with all this paper? Anyways…

I want to talk about French girls. They fascinate me. Their style is sexy, their voices are intoxicating, and their faces are the paragon of beauty. I had the pleasure of meeting and hanging out with Mediterranean/European mixed race girls who often descend from North African immigrants. But whether you are into the Germanic, Celtic, or the dark Moorish look, the French have a history of miscegenation and multiculturalism that provides a wonderful variety of fruit to pick.

I tried to draw one but this is the best I could do:


Draw me like one of your French girls.

The French can be a little tough to break, they don’t need to learn English, most don’t, and those that do are downright bad at it. That leaves the onus on you to learn a little bit of the romance language to help your conversations along. Learning even just a few phrases and having good delivery can increase your value tremendously. Having earned fluency in Spanish during my college year abroad in Spain I decided to take up the challenge and earn my flag in France so I bought a ticket for Europe as part of my 3 week long hiatus in the fall. I made the acquaintance of some young Parisians during the summer in NYC so I had somewhere to start.

8 Hours

Some of you may be thinking “Learn French? I ain’t got time for dat bowlsheet!” Fine. You don’t need French to game it up in France, but if you are like me, you want to take every little advantage you can get. 8 Hours is all you need to learn conversational French. So pick up Michel Thomas’s audio crash course, a 2$ copy of “1001 Most useful French words” on Kindle and get started.


What if I told you there were events every day in Paris where you can find French girls looking to speak to and develop relations with native English speakers? Welcome to Franglish. They organize events where native English-speakers can meet native French-speakers for a fun uptempo language exchange in trendy bars and lounges. You get 7 minutes in each language with your partner and then switch. Don’t worry if your French is abysmal or non-existent, your partners will want to spit English the entire time anyway, and they are are always willing to help you fill in the blanks. [Also check out events on]

The most important thing to take away from these events are not necessarily the dates, but the friends. Here you will build your “entourage”. A bunch of outgoing Frenchies who are enthusiastic to go out and have fun with you. Invite the girls out, invite groups of them out. Be a somewhat selective, girls who have a good level of English and are outgoing, smiling, laughing. I got lucky the first day and met 2 girls in their late-20s with great English for some fun nights out. Reap the rewards of social proof and let it be known that you are a social butterfly and like to flirt. Be honest with your intentions, but take an interest in their lives as well. Social circle principles apply here so you need to make sure you are the alpha male by taking the lead and making sure everyone is having a good time.

Don’t be surprised to meet French guys who are there to meet English women at these events. Share notes, they can be your perfect wingmen. My most valuable contact I made at these events was an American college student earning her Masters in French. When we went out she was more than willing to help along my conversations with Paris’s native knockouts.

At the event you must be cool with the event organizer, the one who assigns seating and greets everyone. Building rapport with this person is essential, because if you spy a hot French girl, you do not want to leave it up to fate whether you sit with her or not: request that you sit at her table! If you are cool with the organizer she will gladly make the arrangement. Depending how cool you are with the organizer the more you can let it be known that you are there for the cuties. My only regret was not demanding to be seated with an HB that was oogling me when I first arrived to an event. When the event ended and I finished up with my partner, she was gone. Learn from my mistake.

Ok now you are a pro at ordering “un cafe” at “le cafe”. Your French still sucks but own it, let it be known you are that foreigner who is trying his ass off to sound good at the language and people will eat it up like a hot crepe. Your technical level of French is not that important for gaming. What is important is your attitude and delivery. When you deliver your opener to that Alizee lookalike you deliver it with a glint in your eye, an enthusiastic rising tone like you are really excited about something: “excuse moi!”. This is important because most native french speakers with no game will bark their words in a descending tone that tires the ear. You need to get her attention, and everything you have ever learned about body language and tone will be even more important. Use gesticulations to great effect.

One night I was out by Oberkampf with the American college student I mentioned earlier, and she told me this : ” I’m going to write about about you in my blog about living in Paris! I’ve known people who have studied French for 3-4 years and I have never met someone so confident speaking to French people!” I took it as a huge complement considering I crammed for only 3 weeks prior to my trip having not learned a word before that. The point I am trying to make is not that I am awesome, the point is people don’t care much about the things you say, mostly how you say it. But this is universal.

Day Game

I am not a seasoned day game pro. I am mostly a night-crawler  But I did find a great spot for insta-dates. Its called Marche des Enfants Rouge. It is an outdoor food market with surrounding restaurants and seating areas. It is nestled in a cozy walkway in Le Marais. Many Parisians don’t even know of this spot. So what you do is walk around the area and ask for directions. “Excuse moi. Savez-vous ou est le marche des enfants rouge?” No matter what the response you ask if they speak English. If she does, you complement her how great her English is, she smiles, then it is game on. You are giving out that excitable doe-eyed tourist vibe, this works because most French girls think they are an ambassador to their country.You invite her to accompany you for some treats and escalate from there. Here is where I had one of my few day-dates when I got some fondle action with an Algerian princess. Turned out religion was important to her. She didn’t believe in eating pork but was fine with smoking two packs a day. w/e … The French are a quirky bunch.

Marche des Enfants Rouge

Night Game

Paris is an international’s city. You will run into people from all over the world at the trendy bars and clubs. There is nothing to be said here besides, be graciously American. Your openers can vary wildly, but your body language and tone are of primary importance. If you are like me, tall 6’2″ and in shape, you will stand out, because French men are some of the scrawniest unhealthy people you will every see. Touch often and push for the close. I sat down with a group of Algerian and Brazilian girls in Germain (25 Rue de Buci) and pussed out by not escalating with the girl that I built comfort with. Its beautiful the way the game immediately knocks you back into line after wavering.

Trial Run

In closing. I spent only one week in Paris, this was the trial run. I didn’t get the flag mainly due to time constraints, but I did get many great interactions with many girls and a handful of veritable hotties. I avoided tourist traps at all costs because I wasn’t interested in meeting tourists. I did not want to run my typical New York game of going caveman in the clubs and hooking up with an intoxicated slut. I wasn’t sure if that would work. I was sure that I didn’t want to take that approach in Paris because I wouldn’t be learning anything new. I am trying to evolve my game into actual romance. I got the ball rolling by establishing rapport with locals so I have people to hang out with on my next trip where I plan on having a much more extended stay. What I have provided here is the kick starter. I will build on this foundation during future trips and hopefully construct a Roosh style didactic method for getting laid in France. Cheers.

Le pic…

Now on to Poland…

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